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Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Women Are Missing A Golden Opportunity

Cynthia Ruccia

        

We are always taught that you need to grab opportunity when it knocks on your door because it may not come back another time. We women are missing or may have already missed a golden chance to really advance our agenda to achieve more power parity. And we have missed it because we have taken our eye off the ball.

It almost bores me to write this piece because I have been railing about these ideas for such a long time. When I got started caring about the advancement of women in the late 60's and early 70's, we women were pretty clear about what we wanted and we were more united in advancing that agenda. We wanted freedom to be all we could be, we wanted to shatter all of the existing glass ceilings that we confronted wherever we turned, and we wanted to take our own destinies into our own hands. It was understood that we women would support one another in our quest to be CEO's, Supreme Court justices, to take our place at the power tables everywhere, and to be President of the United States.

But it turned out that the devil was in the details. As we started to gain what we desired, we experienced a huge split in the battle over abortion. Our potential for power was severely weakened as that great struggle played itself out and shattered our unity of purpose. We made gains at work and in school. Laws were amended and new laws were passed to clear the way for more equality and opportunity. We began to live the lives our mothers only dreamed of.

Along the way, we thought we were making gains that we weren't actually making. The entire women's agenda began to be exploited by both political parties. Much lip service was paid to keeping women in the fold depending on the parties' positions on abortion. We women stopped asking for anything else. What a mistake we made!!!!


We now face the fact that women hold little to no power in the United States. 16.8% of our U.S. Congress is made up of women. The U.S. ranks #80 in the world in female representation in government. 3.4% of Fortune 1000 CEO's are women. 12% of governors are women, of the 100 largest cities 8% have women mayors, 24.5% of state legislators are women, 5 states have never sent a woman to Congress (Iowa, Vermont, Delaware, North Dakota, Mississippi). Women are STILL only making 77 cents on the man's dollar. Although a case can be made that women are gaining, just not at the "tippy top," it is at the tippy top where all of the critical decisions are made, and women are very scarce in those places.

We women used to ask for things that could matter. What are we asking for now? Nothing really. We have outsourced our desires for advancement to groups who have become entrenched and calcified and are incapable of pivoting to focus on why women aren't holding more power. These groups have convinced the men in power that they only need to pay lip service to a very very narrow agenda in order to make we women happy. It is so insulting really. But we women haven't become apoplectic enough to finish the job we started in the 60's.

What got me started on this rant once again was the reminder at the presidential debate last night that Mitt Romney promised to have a gender neutral cabinet when he was campaigning for governor of Massachusetts, and once elected he delivered. It's a magnificent story really because when he was running, the women's groups in Massachusetts got together and decided to challenge both candidates to promise to appoint a gender neutral 50/50 cabinet if elected. Watch this great video telling the whole story:


Why aren't we making these kinds of requests again? It seems to me that if women made a big fuss out of a gender neutral cabinet, both candidates would acquiesce to the demand. And it would be a highly important symbol to all. Instead we feminists are in the rather disgusting position of letting people other than ourselves define what we want. Whatever happened to the brave bold women who knew what they wanted and went out and got it? Whatever happened to our lack of tolerance for hypocrisy that masquerades as feminism? I try not to make these kinds of statements on this blog because this blog is NOT about bashing President Obama, it's about about finding a way to help women achieve parity at the top. But let's face it. Our president parades around as a feminist touting Lily Ledbetter as the sine qua non of feminism while at the same time underpaying the women on his staff----a practice that can be even traced back to his days in the Senate as well. I remember a time when we women wouldn't have let this situation go on. we wouldn't have put up with it. What has happened to us?

Well, I am once again tired and bored, but I am far from finished on this topic. I was told, and I only have anecdotal evidence, that in 2008 when women approached the Obama campaign about asking him to promise to have a gender neutral cabinet, that it was a no go. It would not be a no go if massive numbers of women insisted on it.

Sigh------am I the only person out there who cares about this stuff? I think not. Maybe we should get a head start and in January start building demand for a gender neutral cabinet in time for the 2016 campaign........








22 comments:

  1. I know someone who was involved in getting the women's names to Romney. She likes the term "binder." I am proud that she was part of this. I am disgusted at the snotty bitching by so-called feminists and smartass lefty males about this. Why not be happy, glad, and encourage this 50% behavior? Better to sit around and kvetch about not getting free contraceptives, and talk about how meaningful women in vagina costumes are? Or talk about one's orgasms like Naomi Wolfe? Bleah.

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    1. Sweetgrass I think that the binder thing is stupid. My female parts include my brain. And I'm voting with that part.

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  2. Sweetgrass----I haven't been able to address Naomi Wolf's book on my blog. I just think that she is wayyyyy out there. We have all the freedom in the world to talk about our vaginas as much as possible. But it hasn't given us any progress as far as power is concerned. Why she would waste her talent on such things instead of using her platform to help women gain more power is beyond me. answer me this-----what comes first, gaining power or figuring out the absolute symbolism of our vaginas? seems to me like we'd gain even more opportunities to expand our vaginal symbolism if we'd gain a little more power. Just saying.....

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  3. The power of....exhibitionism and being a sex object seems to be Naomi's bag.

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    1. I guess so. Nothing new under the sun there----it's the oldest story in the book. and although there is a certain power to that, it's not the kind of power we need to aspire to right now....

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    2. So we are back to our women parts again.

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    3. When women start prattling on about their vaginas they lose my support and my interest.

      I care about what is in women's hearts and between their ears.

      The women's movement has become the liberal movement. Conservative women are treated as second class citizens and/or as the enemy. Attacks on conservative women are applauded.

      I have given up on women's rights. The "War on Women" and abortion has successfully turned women into easy little groups that can now be used and abused.

      I will no longer vote for a woman because of her gender. If I like her politics better than her opponents she will get my vote. Case in point, is here in my state of Wisconsin.

      I will have to vote for an old Republican retread who I neither like nor respect. The alternative is Tammy Baldwin who I loathe.

      Woman dressing up in vagina costumes have infantilized the real problems that woman have and that you listed so well Cynthia. Unfortunately the mean girls and the silly girls now run the movement and I have never wanted to align myself with them.

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    4. well put Kenoshamarge as usual.

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    5. You are right about that! Naomi is a twit. I am universally disgusted by women exhibitionists who are chronically looking for a political cause so they can expose themselves.

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  4. But the good news is this: Romney Knows how to do gender parity. And he Knows it is a Good Thing! So he will probably go for lots of smart women for his Cabinet and staff!

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    1. let's hope so. We haven't asked for anything.....

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    2. I don't think we need to. I think that Governor Romney will do the right thing without any one asking. And if he doesn't Ann will give him what for!!

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    3. I agree. Romney has worked both the Olympics job and the Governor job for zero pay. His cabinet when he was governor had gender parity. He will do it again because it is the right thing to do.

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  5. No, you are NOT the only one, Cynthia!!

    Can you get back on Neil Cavuto(?)s show and sing it sister, like you did in 2008???

    We are sorely LACKING in the spokesperson department. You and a few others in 2008 gave voice to millions of us. Hate to place the burden on you again, but we are desperate!!! You are right...we are passing up a Golden Opportunity!

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    1. That would be wonderful! Too many far left liberals are claiming to be the spokeswomen for all women.

      The great, smart, articulate women on The Five are evidence that another voice is out there and can draw an audience.

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    2. yes---there is a pool of phenomenal women in this country. I'm sick of the ones given a platform to parrot what the men want to hear. When are we going to rebel against it? I don't know about you, but I've got at least one more good full throated rebellion left in me......

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  6. Here's an article about how the left has used women I enjoyed. Perhaps you might too.


    ‘Binder Derangement Syndrome’: How the Democratic Party Exploits Women

    more: http://pjmedia.com/rogerlsimon/2012/10/18/binder-derangement-syndrome-how-the-democratic-party-exploits-women/?singlepage=true

    There may be some women who enjoy playing the perpetual victim just as there are some AA's who do. I don't.

    With our numbers the patriachy would no longer have the power to stop us if we hadn't met the enemy and it was us. JMO


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    1. Thanks for the link. There is so much garbage swirling around today about women, it's making me crazy. I'm off to swim right now (got to keep training for the national senior olympics finals in triathlon next summer), but when I get back, I've got another piece I'm going to write on this subject. All of your comments are so inportant!!!!

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    2. You are always welcome Cynthia. If there is one thing I have alot of, it's opinions! ;)

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  7. Great post, Cynthia.
    Dems keep asking women to cut off their noses to spite their faces.

    Tweeted a link to it
    https://twitter.com/votermom/status/258906173833617408

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    1. thanks votermom!!! and everyone go over to votermoms book club. She's got a good thing going:

      http://crayfisher.wordpress.com/book-club-new/

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  8. Yes we are missing a golden opportunity to ask men for what we want. However it seems like not matter how much we ask and even when we insist, they just take us for granted. Let's just by-pass them. We have the numbers. Let's put them out of office. To do that we have to band together. Yes Marge that means you to.

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